Folks have decided that because the vicar is on sabbatical I must be terribly busy. To be fair, I am no more busy than I was before, in fact I have saved some time by not driving to meet up with him to pray together. It interests me how folks project their ideas of busyness on to the ‘vicar’. I don’t think that I am giving out messages of being too busy, although I’ll admit I am tired (I have preached every Sunday this year so far and there has been a lot more school work). However, I am beginning to worry that my phone is not ringing so often as it once did and I am no longer hearing that people are in hospital. Worse still, I missed that someone was dying last week. ‘We didn’t want to bother you because you must be so busy with the viacr away’. Today, I realised that the parish administrator was being rung up more, at all hours and at home mostly with trivia and she feels she has to deal with it straight away. The retired clergy are telling me that they have done a funeral here and there to save me because I must be so busy. I am grateful to them but I would rather not be by-passed.
So….how do I deal with this projected busy-ness and how folks feel that they shouldn’t bother me anymore?
YES, I am busy but if I were a busy coffee shop proprietor folks would not queue for ages to get a coffee and on reaching the counter say, ‘OH, you seem terribly busy, so I am not going to bother you to make me a coffee’ would they?
or is this really about my need to be in control and know what is going on? Perhaps I should just enjoy how folks feel they should be protecting me right now.